I remember when it first hit me. My definition of success was challenged and I needed to rethink it. I had just read the book, The Elephant in the Boardroom: Speaking the Unspoken About Pastoral Transitions” by Carolyn Weese and J. Russell Crabtree. The line that rattled me was, “One way or another, every church will eventually lose its pastor or minister yet few congregations prepare for this dramatic event.” Approaching age 50 at the time, I had not thought seriously about that truth.
My thoughts of success had previously been focused on whether or not the church was healthy, vital, alive, making a difference in the community and growing—spiritually, numerically and financially. I really hadn’t considered what would happen when I retired from the lead pastoral role. In fact, statics convinced me that my major vocational investment had a very slim chance of continuing to thrive and return dividends after I retired. Now I begin to consider a different definition of success.
If I was really a “Level 5” leader like my mentors John Maxwell and Jim Collins had challenged me to become, then “legacy is created only when a person puts his organization into a position to do great things without him.” Maybe I should rethink success. I did. I began to redefine my measurement of success in ministry based on whether the church I had started and was leading was continuing to grow, be healthy, remaining vital and thriving five years after I was out of the lead seat.
The new measurement of success made a difference in my priorities. My top priority became the development of a succession plan. I started by developing an emergency succession plan in case I was suddenly unable to lead the organization. I also started preparing myself for a transition over the next years. I did lots of reading, some soul searching, significant prayer, dialogued with trusted friends and looked at my leadership sweet spot and what I really was most passionate about. I began to envision my new dream role in leadership inside the church and in the community.
Four years ago this week, I made a public leadership transition. Today, I can clearly say it was a success. All of the measurements of health, vitality and growth of the organization are going up and to the right. My own sense of well-being and satisfaction has increased.
This is the launch of my several-part story. A 5-minute version of it can be watched along with many other succession stories at Leadership Network’s free online Succession conference today (March 26, 2013) at this link. You can watch it for free today at 1pm EDT or purchase the right to watch it on your own schedule.
QUESTION: Have you ever raised up a leader to succeed you in an organization? I would love to hear more about it in the Comment section.
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You might be wondering why I’m promoting an online conference for tomorrow. My wife Linda and I have the privilege of speaking at this conference via video to tell our story of leadership succession. So, go ahead and check out this link to Church Leader Succession so you can see what it is all about and register. We are very honored to be in the speaking company of some heroes and leaders that have impacted us over our 34 years of ministry.
Leadership Network is the outstanding organization which is sponsoring this conference! They have been a huge help in my journey as a leader and in the success and growth of Cape Christian where I am the founding pastor. The seminars, the articles, the books, the learning communities that I have been connected to have helped me to grow as a leader and to grow other leaders.
Halftime, another partner of Leadership Network (both founded by Bob Buford), has affected my life immensely. I highly recommend any of their downloadable materials, books, seminars and conferences through the above link. Halftime International Spokesman, Lloyd Reeb, has blessed me with many hours of coaching and encouragement during my succession journey.
During the next several blog posts, I’ll be sharing some of my succession story and the learnings from the experience. Stay tuned!
QUESTION: Are you planning to watch the Succession online event? Let me know in the Comment section. Thanks!
During my first ministry experience in Elmira, NY, I always chuckled when I went to the north end of Walnut Street, which was the south gate entrance to the Woodlawn National Cemetery. I wasn’t laughing because Mark Twain was buried in that cemetery. Although Mark Twain was funny and said, “Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.” I always chuckled for another reason. About 50 yards from the entrance to the cemetery was a “Dead End” traffic sign. It was ironic. It was an unintended twist on the truth.
I recently saw this statement on a DVD jacket—“It’s not a dead end if it takes you somewhere you needed to go.” I like that. Most of us think of a dead end road as a bad route to nowhere. But sometimes we do need to get to a dead end.
DEAD ENDS ARE GOOD WHEN THEY…
…KEEP US FROM SOMETHING WORSE. I’ve often been grateful for dead end signs that kept me from going off the street in a city with over 400 miles of canals. A “No” answer to a new job, a loan application and a potential relationship have saved me from a lot of stress and heartache. Dead ends are not necessarily a bad thing.
…FORCE US TO TURN AROUND. Sometimes I’ve missed the signs I should have seen much earlier at the beginning of the road. When there’s a barrier or a cul-de-sac in front of me, I have few options but to turn around. I’ve discovered that God knows how to put dead ends in our path when we haven’t carefully listened to his guidance along the way.
…MAKE US LOOK FOR DETOURS. Resistance and obstacles often force us to pay attention to other options. It’s easy to live life on cruise-control and end up going at a high-rate of speed to a bad destination. I know a lot of people who are now grateful for the economic crash of a few years back because the job they lost, the house foreclosure and the shaken-to-the-core experience demanded they reevaluate their priorities, their relationships and their values. Now, they love the change of scenery!
…CAUSE US TO DEPEND ON GOD. There’s an old saying, “There are no atheists in foxholes.” People tend to seek divine power when they are facing an extreme threat. People who are suddenly faced with no more pavement in front of them (whether it be financial, relational, health-related, career or other), usually cry out to God for strength, guidance, peace and power. And, that is a good thing. A self-powered life is not what God intended for His creation.
Remember, dead end living can be the best thing that happens to you. And, it’s not a dead end if it takes you somewhere you need to go. Happy traveling!
QUESTION: What would you add as a benefit of a dead end? Share it in the Comment section.
YOLO, a popular acronym, is frequently seen in text messages, on Facebook and other places where people are describing some new event or daring action they are about to embark on or just finished. YOLO is the acronym for “You Only Live Once.” It represents the contemporary version of “Carpe Diem,” a Latin aphorism for Seize the Day. The message is simple. Do not take life for granted.
The Oxford English Dictionary (OED) chose YOLO to be on its 2012 short list for their Word of the Year—along with trendy words like “Super Pac,” “Superstorm” and “Eurogedden.” I think OED accurately captured the way YOLO is typically inserted into conversations, “Typically used as rationale or endorsement for impulsive and irresponsible behavior.”
I don’t endorse impulsive and irresponsible behavior. As one who has spent the last 34 years in the helping profession as a pastor and police chaplain, I’ve invested a lot of hours listening to the horrendous consequences resulting from reckless actions and thoughtless decisions. I don’t recommend YOLO as an attitude to live life from if we use the definition of OED.
However, I would love to see all of us remember YOLO in the sense that we must not take life for granted. It’s vital that we seize the moment. Make sure every day, every hour counts. Live for more than success, live for significance.
Here’s what helps me and maybe it will help you too!
Know Your Identity – You are more than a 10-digit number in a crowded world. You are more than what your parents and teachers called you. You are a masterpiece of God. Really, you are! Ephesians 2:10 describes it this way, “For we are God’s masterpiece…” The original Greek language uses the word for poem. You are a poem of God. You were meant to express God’s heart in a unique and special way to the people around you.
Know Your Purpose – God wants you to understand your mission and purpose in life. My mission/purpose statement is to “Inspire transformissional living in others.” Through an intentional process of exploration, I’ve learned how my natural talents, spiritual gifts, personality, education, experience and my passion all intersect to accomplish my purpose of inspiring others to be constantly transformed by God’s love and grace as they live on mission.
Live with Intentionality – I’ve learned that default-mode living normally leads to coasting. You start taking life for granted. You don’t invest your time, talent and treasures with intentionality. And soon, life marches on and you have oodles of regrets—relationships have deteriorated, you have a boatload of “what ifs” and you might have experienced success but little significance. Intentional planning, learning, growing, giving, serving and loving create a life of fulfilling relationships and meaning.
So, remember YOLO—You Live Only Once. Don’t take life for granted. Seize the moment. Make today count!
QUESTION: What have I missed? Please comment below.
We’ve established that our physical, emotional and spiritual energy is finite, not unlimited. Just doing life, working and relating to people will drain our energy levels. You can name a ton more specific energy-drainers: financial stress, conflict, internal incongruity, health issues, insecurity and more. But, the question is, how do you restore and refuel your energy reserves?
In Part 1, I gave several suggestions about staying energized: Identify your energy-drainers, complete and accomplish tasks, exercise, eat right, help someone else and laugh more.
Here are some additional suggestions I have for staying energized:
Connect with God – This is where I start most every day. All of us was created to link to our Creator. God is the ultimate energy source. I connect with Him through reading the Bible and prayer.
Stay Positive – This is more crucial than you might think. “For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). It’s simple but hard to do. Negative attitudes deplete your energy. Positive thoughts energize.
Watch Your Words – Your thoughts influence your words and your actions. Your words influence the people and environment around you. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). Your words will either energize or drain you and all of the other people you connect with each day.
Feed Your Brain – Stimulate your brain by feeding it new and interesting content. I watch almost no television in a given week. But I do read every day and try to learn something new about leadership, photography and things I know very little about. You can’t afford not to read if you plan to grow and be energized.
Get Plenty of Rest – Everyone is different but most adults need 7-8 hours of sleep each day. When you don’t get enough rest, you get grumpy and you reduce your ability to handle stress.
Disconnect Regularly – We all need a change from routine to refill our energy tanks. Even God rested on the seventh day of creation. Divert daily. Withdraw weekly. Abandon annually. Find a hobby that recharges you. Mine is nature photography (See Gingerich PhotoArt)
Avoid Energy-Depleters – I have to be honest here. Some relationships are toxic. Some are a ginormous energy drain. Others totally energize you every time you are with them. I understand there’s a problem here if you are married to one who drains you. But, be honest, get counseling, work hard toward developing a life-giving relationship. And, make sure you are imparting life and energy to the people around you!
QUESTION: What have I missed? What do you do to boost your energy? Leave a comment below.
Energy is finite, not unlimited. Stress and pressure drain energy. Relational conflicts sap energy. Lack of internal consistency between who you really are and what you pretend to be will suck the life out of you. You can name a bunch more. But, the question is, how do you restore and refuel your energy reserves?
Here are some suggestions I have for staying energized:
Identify your energy-drainers – If you are out of touch with what empties your physical, emotional, relational and spiritual tank, you can’t stop it. Slow down and pay attention to the times you are exhausted and see if you can put your finger on the specific situations, people, activity or environments that sap you.
Accomplishment – This may seem counter-intuitive when you already may feel overworked. The idea here is not more work but finished work. When you complete tasks and check things off your list, it will boost your energy.
Exercise – We know exercise builds stamina and releases good chemicals into our system. But when we get busy, we tend to make excuses for our lack of exercise. But even just 3-4 times a week for 30-40 minutes can make a huge difference in your energy level.
Eat Right – Avoiding junk foods, fatty foods, sugary foods and alcohol will help prevent your energy levels from dropping during the day. Lots of water is good. Too much caffeine stimulates the body to produce adrenaline and then eventually, when it runs out, you will feel exhausted.
Help Someone – When you make an effort to bless someone else by helping them in some way or another, you feel good about it and your energy level increases.
Laugh – We all need to smile more, laugh more and enjoy life. If we spend our entire day facing conflict, solving problems and managing tension, our energy reserves will be depleted. A good laugh can give a big energy boost.
I don’t want to drain your energy by too long of a read so I’ll stop for now. I have several more. Look for Part 2.
QUESTION: What boosts your energy? Please share it below. Thanks!
In our culture, we are most often judged by our accomplishments. People make their assessment of us based on what we’ve done, what we’ve built, what we’ve led, where we have been, the titles we’ve worn and the awards we’ve been honored with. But the truth is, on the inside, we continually ask ourselves, Am I content with who I am becoming?” Am I pleased with the direction I’m heading?
Have you ever seen a Pine Beetle clinging to the bark of a tree and you approach it and it doesn’t move? And if you touch it, it is actually just a shell still attached to the tree. The insides are completely dried up and evaporated.
I’ve met some people whose lives have evaporated. They have become a walking, hollow shell. Their living has used up their life. They are totally empty and void of any meaning and significance. Oh, they still go through the motions but there is no joy, no purpose and no vision for the future.
It seems to me that a life that has focused only on success results in a life with little significance. The stress of obtaining success at all costs drains all energy reserves—physical, emotional and spiritual. And usually, the person doesn’t like what he or she is becoming. They hate the emptiness. They despise the charades, the smokescreen, the facade, the pretense, the veneer. Everyone around them hears a hollow echo where a resonant vibrant voice should be. And inside, they dislike what they are becoming.
Today, take some time to reflect:
How content are you with who you are becoming?
What are you doing to prevent hollowness?
What are you doing to regularly recharge your body, your mind, your soul and your heart?
Stay tuned. I have some suggestions.
QUESTION: What are the things that drain you? Please share them in the Comment section.
On Facebook, one of my community-leader friends recently posted how inspired she is every time she drives by an intersection near her home. You see, the school crossing guard waves his orange-gloved hand and smiles at every passing vehicle, morning and afternoon. Multiple people commented on her post how they also love to drive by that crossing. In addition to making sure every student arrives and departs safely to and from school, he daily inspires and encourages hundreds more.
I’ve been driving through the same intersection every day on the way to the office over the last seven years. And, the school crossing guard never fails to wave and smile at me. I wave and smile back. I’ve noticed that many drivers do not reciprocate. So, after my friend Heather Mazurkiewicz made her comment on Facebook, I decided to stop my car, roll down the window and tell him how inspiring he is to me. I found out his name is John Haley.
John just smiled even more when I told him that my friends were talking about him on Facebook. He seemed a little embarrassed by all the attention. I thanked John for being such a positive model to me and all the students he encounters each day. I thanked him for making our community a safer and friendlier place to live. John just smiled, waved and said, “Thank you.”
Since I took the time to personally meet John (after driving past him every day for seven years), I’ve endeavored to be more like John. I work hard at not being so focused on my destination that I miss the people along the way. I’m intentionally trying to smile and acknowledge those I meet in the grocery store aisle, standing in line at Starbucks and in the parking lot at Target. I’m making an effort to smile and wave at every out-of-doors neighbor in our community as I drive by. I want to inspire others like John Haley does. Our world needs more crossing guard inspirations. Will you inspire anyone today?
QUESTION: Who inspires you in your daily routines? Share the name below.
Back in the day when price tags weren’t secured on merchandise by chains, security alarms, dye packs and much more, some of my peers would switch price tags in the store–just for the fun of it. And, I know a few people who changed the price tags as a way to get an item for a lower price.
If you think about it, someone has switched the price tags on a lot of things in our culture. We barely pay a decent salary to our school teachers who significantly influence the trajectory of a young student’s life but a 20-something guy who barely got through college gets paid millions of dollars to throw or catch a football on Sunday afternoon. Our want-driven advertising campaigns encourage us to constantly pursue things that will ultimately end up in a landfill.
17th Century theologian Jonathan Edwards observed that the ultimate good in life is to treat things according to their true value. We need to be extremely careful about treating the eternal as though it were temporal and the temporal as though it were eternal.
“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” is a statement made by Jesus (Matthew 6:21). Jesus was addressing our tendency to pursue whatever we value the most. If we buy into our culture’s value system, we will miss out on the joys of knowing God deeply and the joys of God’s best intentions for this life. We will drift toward relationships that are just contacts in our phone lists or “friends” on Facebook. We can easily degenerate into manipulating people to get what we think we want. We become driven to accomplish rather than to spend quality time with those we love. We work harder to impress than to build intimacy with others. And we end up on the treadmill of busyness and striving—disconnected, disillusioned and spent.
What have you invested your life in this past week? Have you invested in anything or anyone that will out live you? Joan of Arc said, “It is not a tragedy to die for something you believe in, but it is a tragedy to find at the end of your life that what you believed in betrayed you.” Her idea captures the tension between the temporal and the eternal. Have you allowed the price tags to be switched?
QUESTION: What helps you stay focused on the right values? Please share it below.
When I launched this blog in October 2012, the third post was “Bucket List or Ladder List?” It was a blog honoring my brother in-law who changed his address from earthly to eternal exactly one year ago today. In honor of Paul, I’m reposting a blog for the first time. Here it is:
Earlier this year, I lost a friend, a brother. We actually both have the same last name—but I grew up in Oregon and he in Pennsylvania. Yet we both married into the same family, just six months apart. So, we are brother in-laws. Paul was an eloquent wordsmith. 
Last year, while challenged with life-threatening cancer, he wrote, “I have trouble with the thought of making a ‘Bucket List.’ This term projects the demise of one’s life and the desire to fill one’s life with hoped-for events before one ‘kicks the bucket’ and opportunities are lost. A bucket invites a downward gaze, the focus of a ‘Ladder List’ directs one’s in an upward direction.”
You may have a bucket list. But have you ever thought of a making a ladder list? If Paul still had an earthly address, he would be the first person I would ask to be a guest blogger. I love his values, his writing, his witty humor and so much more. In fact, Paul did some blogging for the famous Lehman’s Hardware store in tiny rural Kidron, Ohio where he taught high school for 30 years.
Here’s what my brother in-law Paul Gingerich said are the elements he would include on his ladder list:
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Tangible acts of sacrifice for others
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Supportive, relationally-focused activities that enhance family
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Love for others
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Generously giving life to those less fortunate
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And…directing praise to God.
Paul went on to write, “My Ladder List has a ‘bottom-up’ kind of focus. It is open-ended and sacrificial. Its goal is to build up, restore and encourage. I give credit to the Apostle Paul for this upside down, ladder list perspective on the future. In Philippians 3:14, Paul highlights this inverted perspective. He says, ‘I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.’ The focus is upward and there is movement. I’m going to start writing my ladder list and keep looking up!” Love To All, –Paul
We live in a world where we are taught to be self-sufficient, to seek and demand the best for ourselves. But even before his cancer and transition to eternal life at age 59, Paul was climbing a different ladder than most career-focused men. Paul concentrated on serving others, supportive relationships and sharing generously. His two and a half year journey with cancer allowed him to put into text something he was already living. And for me–and thousands of others he has influenced–Paul challenged me to live for a ladder instead of a bucket.
QUESTION: What is on your Ladder List? Please share it in the comment section below!
